ADHD Awareness Month – Day 7
I could see it coming. Clients had barely landed in the chair when all their troubles from the past week started to spill out. The problem was that once we were caught up in that negative spin, changing directions was almost impossible.
All that changed when I declared that all sessions would begin with – What Went Well? Coaching sessions now start with a report on the good stuff.
A simple question – What Went Well? – requires us to pay attention and take note when good things happen. When our perspective widens and we can see the good along with the challenging, overall things look better. Quite a change from our usual negative default mode of thinking!
Noticing when things, both big and small, go well, helps us to balance out the hard wired negativity bias.
Day after day, dealing with the challenges of ADHD, it is easy to get stuck in a magnified view of our perceived failures. When we step back and view the wider perspective of our lives, we can finally see the whole picture. It is a great surprise for many folks when they discover that there are many more positive moments than they would have predicted.
As my teacher Tal Ben-Shahar says – “When you appreciate the good, the good appreciates.”
Let me know if negativity bias is something you are struggling with!
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