To my amazement, I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. After all, there was no reason to think I would be. I had homeschooled four children for over ten years, earned straight A’s in all my schooling and was successful in every job I had taken with promotions gained quickly and often. I was always told I could be/do anything I wanted. I was even voted most likely to succeed my senior year of high school. That didn’t sound like ADHD or focus issues!
I couldn’t believe it! Of course, the flip side of my life was failed marriages, lost friendships due to inattention on my part, and the multitude of false starts in my education. A sampling of my manyunrealized majors includes music, psychology, history, physics, philosophy, art, computer science, business and contract negotiation, the law and religion. I never seemed to be able to stay with anything long enough to get that elusive degree.
One of the issues with my ADHD is the inability to ‘connect the dots.’ Often, holding on to various pieces of information (or dots) long enough to develop a clear picture of an event, relationship or an informed decision seems to hinge more on the roll of the dice rather than as a way of life.
I cannot count how many times along my life journey I have looked back on a period of time and wondered “What was I thinking?” or “Why did I think THAT was a good idea?” In retrospect, I can see pieces (dots) that I missed or mislaid during the decision making processes. Connecting those pieces could have totally changed my thinking at the time and might have set me on a different course.
Since that day over two years ago, I have learned a lot about connecting the dots and so much more about myself, who I am, what I have accomplished and what I can still look forward to. I began taking medication to give my brain a fighting chance with those dots and I started working with a life coach who has identified and has encouraged the successful person hiding inside me.
At the age of fifty plus, I felt my life had just begun!!! And so it has. There is so much more to share, but for now, let’s just say I no longer have to worry about lost dots. They are connecting much easier and I’m loving the pictures I am seeing develop.